Boredom

Just a small hint for the day: Don't let boredom play a factor in dating or talking to guy you know is no good for you. this one is really tricky to master and takes immediate practice.

Excuses

Okay, here are a few pointers I have recently learned.
1) If he refuses or has made numerous excuses as to why he can't hang out with you during the day-Run!
2) If he tells you he doesn't want a relationship -- Run!
3)The famous phrase: "Let's see where things go..." Is code for , "Let's have a no strings attached booty call!"
We all go through times where we may over look certain things a guy says thinking out load (or even self consciously), "Maybe, if I treat him nice, and spoil him to death I can change his mind and we can be together." Yeah, right doesn't work. You can never change a guys mind. If he likes you he will do whatever it takes to make you happy. Even if he is the biggest busy body, he will manage to spend time with you. What the above points usually mean is that he is either in a relationship or is hoping to start one with someone else, like an ex or infamous "Baby mom's". Everyone seeks out a partner, that's how we were made. We are social beings and we all want that company and significant other. So If some says "I don't want a relationship." its a lie and I would not waste my time, especially since my goal is to eventually have a healthy relationship.

Liars

Well, okay i had to write about this because i go through this all the time while dating. The questions rush through my mind like a wild river on a raining day. Is he lying. ultimately as soon as this question pops into your mind; it means "yes"...well, "yes he is lying" . The vibes you feel while talking to guys are very important. I have at many times in my life gone against my own vibes and then I ended up ending relationships anyways. When it should have been over when the first bad vibe started.

What if...

So What if he doesn't want to be with you anymore and you really feel like you've fallen head over heels? It's really hard to to sometimes admit that the relationship is just not worth keeping. Deep down inside may even feel that this is a horrible relationship, but you also, feel as though maybe if you work hard at makeing it better than it will become more worthwhile. In my experience I came to realize that this ultimately is not true. If you have to work that hard to make something out of nothing then most likely thats what it is, "nothing". Sometimes we put ourselves in bad relationships or a.k.a. "settle" becuase we feel that this is all we deserve therefore, this is the only type (that through our minds) is what we can get. Sooo, mulipulating them is our main objective. We try to mold them onto what we want. This is very bad and almost deadly....

5 signs to move on

1) You have a gut feeling that it Just wont work

2) He barely calls or returns a phone call

3)He has no "motivation" to come see you

4) Always wants you to drive him around

5) Calls you when he's at the bar, high, or half drunk

When living in the lovely world of dating there may be a time when moving on is highly important, in that case always keep in mind: There are many men in the world and keep it moving if one isnt up to par....

Therefore.....................

I have some Red flags to make everyone aware of in choosing the right man (does anythig need to be added to my list??):


1.) He has no job
2.) Has no car
3.) Does recreational drugs/or drinks more than twice a week
4.) Is Unattractive
5.) Homeless
6.) Has children not living with him

If a man with 2 or more of the above charateristics approaches you starts to hint to either dating or pursueing you in any way...RUN, but before you do that let it be known either nicely or harsh that you are off the market. And then RUUUN!!!!

OmG.. It's the worst feeling in the world of dating (and of course generally too) is to be surrounded by idiots and smoochers who just wanna take all your money; use you for what ever you have and then you either : A) have to get rid of them or B) they leave. Both of these senerios have happened to me and both of them suck. Especially if you actually cared for the person who was using you to the point of getting knocked up. The other senerio where you have to get rid of the guy is scary as hell because 5 times out of ten the idiot doesnt get the point. Then you have to get your father, brother, and/or the p.d. envolved, and yes it's that serious... i dont recommend anyone to Ever date someone who you have the "Slightest" doubt about. Reason being is that the doubt; which initailly starts out as a small thought in the back of you head, usually becomes the worst reallity ever and then explodes in your ] face, making you feel stupid and 100 percent resentful. I plan on using this blog to give advice on dating and spotting appropriate men-- and potentionally me start up more websites for dating advice for those who for whatever reason ; do not and cannot have bums in their lives... thank you for your time and I look forward too this...YAY!